good friends with 'benefits'
This came up during a conversation with my pal, anil. He egged me to write about it. Ergo...We meet a fair number of women, my pals and I. And, because we're single, there's always an angle. Mostly obtuse.
Of late, the women we've been meeting and/or superficially dating(I'll explain that some other time) have been rather keen on one kind of relationship. Yes, you've read the title, I know. But, before you get excited about this rather alarming trend (alarming for statisticians, brilliant for men), I'll have you know the benefits do not include carnal acts.
Yeah. No soup for us!!
These women seem to seek this comfort zone that they get into when they're in a romantic relationship, without any of the baggage. Or physical proximity.
Good friends by day. Sweet-nothing-whisperers by night. Good, great friends, the best!! Love? Lust? Huh?
Frankly, its driving me up the wall. We're simple people. 'Man'kind, that is. First, there was the complication of dating/relationship/breakup/marriage/divorce. And now this new state. This in-between state where we haven't the slightest clue if we're in or out. And if we're in; how deep?
Q: Hey. How've you been
A: Good. You?
Q: Great. How's that chick you've been talking too. You guys an item now?
A: She's good. I guess. Item? Dunno. Just good friends. I guess. Or maybe not. I'm confused.
Q: Bye dude!
See what i mean?
I have a theory. I think this goes much deeper that it seems. I get the feeling these women are ganging up. They're forming these cults, where they're confusing the shit out of men and laugh about their experiences at weekly meetings.
Sue: Hi. I'm Sue and I'm a 'good friend'.
Group: Hi Sue.
Sue: You won't believe what I made this guy do this week......
{much laughter follows}
Is it time for men to ask the one question we most dreaded?
Where's this going, honey?
posted by chandru @ 4:27 PM
3 Comments:
The correct answer is, wherever you want it to, and sound sincere, not sarcastic. You may be still get some ye rolling but she'll be thinking sweet!
seems like a common concern amongst the singles- no, not just men... even women.
I think that they are enjoying their singleness so much, that no one wants to ask the dreaded question "honey, where is this going"
had they asked, they would have had the answer.
After many years of being super notorious for not getting involved in mind-numbingly long relationships, I have 3 things to say about men: Make up your mind. Don't dance around to our tunes. Set expectations from the get go.
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